I heard about MM way back when I was in my 20’s. I already knew my drinking was out of control but I didn’t want to quit. So when I heard that there was a possibility that I could maybe learn to drink less, I was thrilled. But I didn’t join MM then. In fact I waited almost 20 more years to join. Wanna know why?
The friggin’ 30!
See, I thought that MM had requirements, just like every other recovery group I’d ever heard of, i.e.. You are required to stop drinking. You are required to attend meetings. You are required to admit you’re an alcoholic. You are required to do something called Steps.
So, I thought if I joined MM, someone was going to tell me that I was required to go 30 days without drinking or it was no-go. And going 30 days without drinking scared the shit outta me. Even if I hadn’t been scared to death of it, I still didn’t want to do it. I didn’t want to learn to quit drinking, I wanted to learn to drink less.
So, I waited another 20 years until my drinking was totally out of control. Until I was desperate enough to ask for help. Until I thought I probably needed to do a 30, probably a lifetime of 30’s. Then, I joined MM and found that the 30 isn’t required. In fact, nothing is required except a desire to change.
FFffffffffffart! I wasted 20 years!
Don’t be me. Don’t not join MM because you think you’re going to be asked to do something you’re not ready to do. You won’t be. I’m not even going to tell you about my 30’s or anybody else’s 30’s or even about our long time members who have never done a 30. Or how a 30 isn’t really torture, even though it’s not easy. Or, how most of us come to value the 30 and actually look forward to doing it more than once. You can find it all out for yourself at the Moderation.org or by talking to some of the members at the Forum or the MM listserv. I think you’ll like us, we’re a pretty great bunch of people.
Now you know.